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Pregnant at 40 | we’re expecting a baby!

Something I never expected to say again in this lifetime was, “I’m pregnant”. I never thought I’d be able to say to my husband “you’re going to be a father of two”. I’m pregnant at 40. Making the last one was hard enough. I was ok with being a mother of one, I really was. And now, I’m going to have another baby.

16 weeks pregnant. Five scans later I’ve got to accept it, it’s true. I’m the age I am, at the stage of life I’m in, and I’m pregnant. This was not how I expected 2016 to be. At all!

I didn’t even tell my husband until I’d sneaked an early scan in, just to make sure. We’ve been in a state of happy denial ever since! But now, as my always chubby body begins to give the game away and I’m getting the ‘is she pregnant or just a bit fatter’ stares, it’s time to come clean.

I’d not be telling the truth if I said I was over the moon, thrilled, ecstatic. I’m sort of beyond that realm. I’m very, very apprehensive. But I’m also filled with wonder. How can this be? After nearly ten years of it being so out of the realms of possibility, medically and mentally, God and nature have given us a new gift to attempt to treasure. Another broad ribbon of joy to weave into the tapestry of our marriage.

And can I be so lucky as to be visited again by another creature that bewitches me with its being to the point that I forget every single other thing that ails or worries me?

We’ll see. But for now, it’s good, good news.

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  1. Helen Helen

    Many congratulations, I know exactly how you must have felt and possibly still feel. It could have been a carbon copy of me, only I was 43 and had 11.8 year old twins when I found out about our family surprise. I was 13 weeks by then. To say I was shocked and in denial for about 15 months is an understatement. It does get easier and I can assure you, you won’t be the oldest in the playground by any means.
    I regularly read your blog so am looking forward to seeing how you get on. Look after yourself.

    • Wow! That’s so great to hear, what a lovely surprise nature has thrown at you there. Thanks for reading, and saying that you read, that’s very cool. Have a good summer.

  2. So so happy for you all xxxx

    • Thanks Alison, you little (naturally occurring) sweetie you.

  3. Emily G Emily G

    Congrats! Xx although different circumstances I can relate to your feelings as I didn’t expect to get pregnant at the time and it was a shock in many ways. I’m now 27 weeks and just starting to feel a bit excited. Hope you’re feeling well! x

    • I am feeling not too bad thank you, how are you doing at 27 weeks? I just feel like much much less of a special snowflake this time round, and am looking for ways to get on with life, not avoid lifting things and sitting around bump stroking like last time!

    • Thanks Jess, much love to you in your new home down there 🙂

  4. i’m so happy for you E! I even told Tom when you announced it because I was so happy for you & he was like ‘is this another internet friend??’ ha I told me no actually we’ve met in real life a few times!! Hope you are feeling OK! x

    • Not too bad thanks Fritha, not too bad. Next step: prove to Tom I’m real by actually meeting him too 🙂

  5. Jane Jane

    Wowsers what fabulous news! Xx

  6. So happy for your news! Congratulations. xx

  7. Eleanor I am so happy for the three of you! This is such fantastic news. In South Africa is normal to have children in your late 30’s and early 40’s as there is no child support or benefits at all so in general people are older and more financially stable before having children – my mother was around 37 having me so I know your all going to do a fantastic job second time around. I can’t wait to hear more about your journey

    Laura x

    • Hey Laura, that’s really interesting to know, and very comforting, which I thank you for!

  8. Of course you can! Congratulations 🙂
    I remember being terrified my second child would not be as magical for me as my first, that I wouldn’t have enough love to give. It’s incredible how the love just doubles, and you see your other child afresh too. I was 40 with my second too, and in many ways I found it easier, knowing what to expect second time around. Enjoy!

    • I really appreciate you saying that Helen, I’m not having the easiest time getting my head around it all this time, so it’s great to hear from people like you who have had similar experiences. Thank you!

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