When your baby was little, do you remember reading the Wonder Weeks? Did you have the app on your phone? I did, it made a lot of sense, at the time. It was really, really comforting to think that there was not just some science to the weird baby behaviour, and that other people might be going through the same thing.
Well, let’s talk about the blunder weeks. I’ve just been chatting to some friends on FB tonight, because I’ve had a bad day. A day where I feel badly prepared, under-performing, generally not very awesome at being a mum. And then it struck me. I’m having a blunder week.
These are weeks I’ll explain like this: something changes with my daughter, the game switches up, or down, the circumstances shift, and I blunder. And it got me thinking, are the blunder weeks as definable as the wonder weeks? Well, they have been for me.
This latest one seems to be because Tibbs is suddenly all about games. And they all involve me. I am a shopkeeper. I am a nurse. I am a dragon. I am always on, a mummy dolly with everlasting batteries. If I turn my back, she’s gotten into tugging the waistband of my jeans. Or even worse, biting the seat of my pants. If I go outside to fetch the dog, she’s a starfish shape at the patio door, vibrating with good cheer for my safe return. It’s endearing. It’s tiring. It’s hard for someone like me to deal with.
So, I’m blundering. I’m feeling out of my depth, a bit fenced in, a bit like I’d just like to say ‘can we stop? I just need to stop and sit down and plan out how to deal with this, before we go any further, please.’
The last time this happened was a few months ago. I know what I need to do. I don’t actually need to sit down and plan (maybe). Firstly, I need to relax and not take anything too seriously. I need to remember that every minute that passes are minutes I will never get again with my daughter, whether they feel long, or short. I need to keep in mind that she’s watching me, and learning from the way I react to things, and set a good example.
I need to not see it as a blunder week. I need to see it as another week where things changed, and I got bigger and better at being a mum.
Do you have blunder weeks too?